tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7259668752473179889.post6605339622603606995..comments2023-03-30T22:58:42.582-04:00Comments on Lance Cristal: Fresh Thoughts on Double StandardsLancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01718427886995028941noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7259668752473179889.post-58559764679332269942008-08-22T13:13:00.000-04:002008-08-22T13:13:00.000-04:00The double standard is grounded in biology. Cultu...The double standard is grounded in biology. Culture still reinforces it, but we're starting to move away from that now.<BR/><BR/>Why is a man who sleeps around considered a player while a women who does is considered a ho? Think about sexual relations in precivilized times.<BR/><BR/>The Paleolithic Player<BR/><BR/>If a cave man slept around with many women and ended up impregnating one of them, what did he lose? Very little. He could impregnate another women that same day. There weren't any courts around that were going to force him to pay child support. So if he got some low quality female pregnant, it didn't matter, he had plenty of seed to spread around. The fact that all these women wanted to sleep with him let high quality females know that he was high quality too. Thus, by sleeping around with the hos he was increasing his chances of attracting a good wife.<BR/><BR/>The Paleolithic Ho<BR/><BR/>If a cave woman slept around with many men and ended up pregnant, what did she lose? A significant fraction of her child bearing years. It's not just those 9.5 months but also the time required for her body to heal enough to safely have another baby. What if the father was low quality? Well then she wasted her womb on some loser who would have a hard time providing for her even if he made the effort and would give her children low quality genes. What kind of women slept around back then? Low quality women. The type of women who knew they couldn't keep a good husband. Their strategy was to sleep with as many high quality men as possible. She may not be able to keep a good man, but she can at least make sure her children have good genes. For women, sleeping around was a form of negative signaling. It signaled that she was low quality.<BR/><BR/>Now all of this explains why the double standard existed in the past, but why does it still exist today? Because we're still basically apes! The vast majority of humanity still relies on primitive emotions. These aren't Nietzsche's supermen. It really shouldn't apply in modern society but human biology still lags far behind human technology.Patrick Batemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07307958991374006338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7259668752473179889.post-70727121307103938622008-08-22T09:21:00.000-04:002008-08-22T09:21:00.000-04:00the slut concept exists; probably for two reasons:...the slut concept exists; probably for two reasons:<BR/><BR/>some men are so full of self-loathing that they can't help but have disdain for any woman who gives into their sexual advances. it's akin to the 'i don't want to be part of any club that would have me as a member.'<BR/><BR/>the other, and perhaps more powerful, side is that women use it to keep each other in line. women gain a lot of power from withholding sex. labelling someone a slut is a means of punishing women who break with that solidarity.<BR/><BR/>the real question is: in contemporary western society, does it serve any useful purpose?Lancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01718427886995028941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7259668752473179889.post-41342967286167495792008-08-22T08:02:00.000-04:002008-08-22T08:02:00.000-04:00I still apply the double standard because most peo...I still apply the double standard because most people have not advanced beyond precivilized mentality. Chances are if a woman is a slut, it's because she's low quality. Only low quality girls were sluts before contraception, and those technologies have not been around long enough for us to adapt to them. I have yet to meet a slut who wasn't low quality. Being a slut does not automatically make you low quality, but there's definitely a strong trend there.Patrick Batemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07307958991374006338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7259668752473179889.post-26092313792948313262008-08-21T21:38:00.000-04:002008-08-21T21:38:00.000-04:00I hate the whole "slut" concept as well. I mean w...I hate the whole "slut" concept as well. I mean what the hell does that even mean? <BR/><BR/>And why do we still have the expression?<BR/><BR/>I'm all for people being open about sex. And everybody is different and likes different things. <BR/><BR/>But to not have sex with someone because you are scared to be labeled a "slut" - is just stupid.<BR/><BR/>Kkiwigirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10194577995228644613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7259668752473179889.post-67865093658502661062008-08-20T23:20:00.000-04:002008-08-20T23:20:00.000-04:00A + post! (though I can't address your question di...A + post! (though I can't address your question di coda because i'm a bit drunk).The Smart Tarthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07421690540343425899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7259668752473179889.post-18229355512410336892008-08-20T23:18:00.000-04:002008-08-20T23:18:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.The Smart Tarthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07421690540343425899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7259668752473179889.post-69957243290194443962008-08-20T17:16:00.000-04:002008-08-20T17:16:00.000-04:00lemon: granted, in most cases it's easier for a ma...lemon: granted, in most cases it's easier for a man who has been excluded from the 'acceptable hook up' pool to clean up his act and get on the inside than it is for a woman labeled a slut to lose that tag. i don't think the margin is as wide as you make it seem. think of how hard it is for a guy to loose a reputation of being 'creepy'.<BR/><BR/>zip: anytime you want is stretching it, but given the qualifiers i mentioned in the post i'm going to say more often than not. see kiwi's comment.<BR/><BR/>also, that is a good idea. i'm definitely going to blog it.<BR/><BR/>kiwi: i think we're in agreement here. i'll go further and say that there is no separating physical feelings from emotional ones; not even for men. anyone who tries is putting himself on painful collision course with reality.Lancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01718427886995028941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7259668752473179889.post-83738087319334651862008-08-20T17:01:00.000-04:002008-08-20T17:01:00.000-04:001) I think women can get laid whenever they want....1) I think women can get laid whenever they want. But most of us have standards - so don't choose to.<BR/><BR/>2) Having sex, at least in my mind, is about pleasure. Do I think I will get pleasure from the encounter. Yes? Then I do it. No? Then I don't. And I don't just mean physical pleasure.<BR/><BR/>Kkiwigirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10194577995228644613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7259668752473179889.post-78081849134463265282008-08-20T16:03:00.000-04:002008-08-20T16:03:00.000-04:00lemm says it well......something I always hear fro...lemm says it well......<BR/><BR/>something I always hear from the guys is that apparently that I can get laid anytime I want - really?<BR/>Granted I do not look like a social reject but many many many times I have gone out and interesting enough - no sex for me that night.<BR/><BR/>Here is a topic you should touch on - Why do men think women can laid anytime they want?<BR/><BR/>Well written by the way ;-)Capitol Hill 20210https://www.blogger.com/profile/14728522554591134160noreply@blogger.com